About Separation and Divorce . . .
Separation and divorce are painful. In my experience, regardless of who initiates separation or divorce, both partners experience deep disappointment and, in the case of divorce, grieve the marriage.
In the face of such grief, mediation can help. The structure of this process supports both spouses as they disengage from their spousal partnership and give voice to their individual needs. My practice is to support both spouses in finding a way forward that minimizes loss and feels respectful to each spouse.
By the way, among the many losses to be minimized when spouses separate or divorce is financial loss. Though figures vary, publications such as Forbes and Money all agree: on average, mediation is less costly than either collaborative law or litigation.
When the divorcing spouses are also parents, the situation is particularly complicated. In my experience, all parents—whether married, separated, divorced or never married—worry about the impact of their decisions on their children.
In the face of such worry, mediation can help. The structure of this process supports parents as they think through how to cooperate as parents even as they grieve one another as spouses. My practice is to support parents in making arrangements that meet the needs of their children.
To learn more about the impact of divorce or separation on children, click on the tab titled “About Divorce and Children . . .”
For a wonderful resource filled with references helpful to both children and adults experiencing separation and divorce, consider the pamphlet "Where Can I Learn More?" available at the following website:
http://courts.oregon.gov/OJD/docs/osca/cpsd/courtimprovement/familylaw/10awherecanilearnmore080108.pdf
And, if you find yourself contemplating separation or divorce, please do call me to learn more about how mediation might help you. I look forward to answering your questions.
In the face of such grief, mediation can help. The structure of this process supports both spouses as they disengage from their spousal partnership and give voice to their individual needs. My practice is to support both spouses in finding a way forward that minimizes loss and feels respectful to each spouse.
By the way, among the many losses to be minimized when spouses separate or divorce is financial loss. Though figures vary, publications such as Forbes and Money all agree: on average, mediation is less costly than either collaborative law or litigation.
When the divorcing spouses are also parents, the situation is particularly complicated. In my experience, all parents—whether married, separated, divorced or never married—worry about the impact of their decisions on their children.
In the face of such worry, mediation can help. The structure of this process supports parents as they think through how to cooperate as parents even as they grieve one another as spouses. My practice is to support parents in making arrangements that meet the needs of their children.
To learn more about the impact of divorce or separation on children, click on the tab titled “About Divorce and Children . . .”
For a wonderful resource filled with references helpful to both children and adults experiencing separation and divorce, consider the pamphlet "Where Can I Learn More?" available at the following website:
http://courts.oregon.gov/OJD/docs/osca/cpsd/courtimprovement/familylaw/10awherecanilearnmore080108.pdf
And, if you find yourself contemplating separation or divorce, please do call me to learn more about how mediation might help you. I look forward to answering your questions.
